Skout, Social Media, and Other Online Risks by Children and About Becoming Entrepreneurs

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Teen risk-taking is biologically rooted and precedes the entrepreneurship we need as a society. While online evils cannot be totally avoided, parents and teachers must start teaching good judgement in consuming media from the early years as they do traffic safety, hygiene, and later, good driving.

 

As a veteran child psychiatrist, I know that the generic cause of tragic incidents such as Skout’s and that well-dramatized in David Schwimmer’s “Trust” ultimately cannot be completely prevented.

From an evolutionary and neuroscience / psychology POV, teens are necessarily hard-wired and socially sanctioned to be “entrepreneurial”, as are most mammalian young. This, not only to eventually evolve the youngster into unique a individual, but also to begin to become the essential innovator needed to contribute to society’s diversity and survival.

Any good mentor for modern startups will teach the cardinal principle that entrepreneurs must experiment, take chances, and make and learn from mistakes. And BTW, only free societies like ours, Israel’s, and other modern democracies support such strivings. As a startup founder myself, my favorite mentor recently admonished me, “Go out and make mistakes!”

But not all teens are true entrepreneurs, because of a variety of reasons, including lack of opportunities, talent, persistance, etc. Additionally, many are immature, lacking sufficient insight, judgement, or trust in adults who care to help make major decisions. These young experimenters are vulnerable prey to predators. Moreover, younger and younger kids are also consuming more and more media and are even more vulnerable.

Another, more insidious, less sensational, but dangerously enduring risk is the progressive damage to children’s intellect, social skills, health, and emotional development that excessive or inappropriate media consumption can cause.

So what are parents to do? Start early and continue to raise digital kids with good media consumption habits solidly embedded in family life beginning in the preschool years. So I wrote the book and invented a media manager to help. I believe that children and families of all communities would benefit from ZillyDilly as they try to figure out how iPads benefit and fit into education and home life, and not the other way round.

REFERENCES

As these trends evolve, you might find the following helpful and might also take a look at the ZillyDilly solution to kids online and share with school decision makers and parents.

DEEPER BACKGROUND ABOUT KIDS AND TECH:

http://www.naeyc.org/files/naeyc/file/positions/PS_technology_WEB2.pdf

   

http://www.pewinternet.org/

   

http://www.childrenssoftware.com/

   

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/

   

http://www.centerforchildrenandmedia.org/

   

http://www.kff.org/entmedia/entmedia012010nr.cfm

   

http://www.mydigitalfamily.org/

   

http://www.lulu.com/shop/search.ep?

   

type=&keyWords=Eitan+Schwarz&x=9&y=3&sitesearch=lulu.com&q=b

   

SKOUT INCIDENT:

http://news.cnet.com/8301-1023_3-57453404-93/can-social-networks-protect-your-kids/

   

SCHWIMMER’S “TRUST“:

http://mydigitalfamily.org/?s=Trust

   

ENTREPRENEURS:

http://www.amazon.com/Lean-Startup-Entrepreneurs-Continuous-Innovation/dp/0307887898/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1339943114&sr=1-1&keywords=Lean+startup

Hate Mail and the New Religious Wars in Tech

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DAVE, good observation.

As a child psychiatrist, I understand the passion to derive from an earlier period of a person’s development where the distinction between the “I” and the “you” and the “it” does not yet exist. An example is what we call the “transitional object”, the Teddy bear, blankie, sucking thumb, etc. and the toy, the doll, invested with personal psychological value, meaning, and a reality way beyond their actual reality.

In grownups we see this commonly in how we feel about our cars and toys, sports teams, movie stars, and even theater and movies where we suspend our disbelief enough to ignore the celluloid running through a projector and imprinted be images assembled by big entertainment companies.

Merchants often want to personalize their product, and advertisers can do a bang up job with that.Teens claim an identity especially by dress, hair, and cell phone and case features.

So the larger context seems to be the extension to these seemingly trivial devices importance and value that include the self of the user. And there are some pretty distorted selves out there, believe me.

Just wait for the robot to come full force, and see how we start personalizing them, as Sherry Turkle describes the “relational artifact”.

 

The Makings of Our Earliest Memories

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Memory is a complex experience that this blog oversimplifies. Actually, the earliest memories, like archeological artifacts, are encoded into the structure of the mind/brain from PRE-birth. An adult born to an alcohol abuser carries that memory for a lifetime in the appearance of his face and structure of his brain, as is a neglected baby or one who has been abused.

Tots Love iPads, so Please Teach Them to Use Them Right

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As younger and younger kids increasingly use powerful tools like the iPad, Dr. Eitan Schwarz, a leading child and adolescent psychiatrist and inventor of ZillyDilly for iPad, urges parents and educators to learn to manage these important interactions systematically and effectively

Three-year-old David recently had such a major tantrum on board a passenger plane when his father yanked the iPad to turn it off and click his seatbelt for take-off that the aircraft returned to the gate to kick him off (http://newsfeed.time.com/2012/06/02/3-year-old-kicked-off-airplane-for-crying/?iid=ec-main-mostpop2?iid=ec-main-mostpop2).

According to leading Chicago child psychiatrist Eitan Schwarz, MD, a Northwestern Medical School faculty member, “Such an event is not surprising. If he were older, the child might say, ‘No fair. The iPad is the awesomest thing ever and I love it and you yank it away and OK, maybe I have ADD or something, or maybe you never taught me how to obey your no’s, but you were rude, and you really humiliated and let me down, Daddy.’ You can blame the parents, you can blame the kid, you can blame technology, you can blame the airline or anyone you want. But the facts are clear: Kids are fascinated by interactive technology (http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-06-05/news/ct-met-healy-column-20120605_1_ipad-e-books-gadget). In fact, we are all enchanted and will stay so as more and more magical devices keep coming faster and faster (http://mydigitalfamily.org/?p=3035).”

Dr. Schwarz, also known as Dr. S, author of “Kids, Parents & Technology: A Guide for Young Families” and inventor of ZillyDilly, a curated iPad Internet manager, continues, “And parents are lost about managing technology to fit appropriately into children’s developmental needs and family life. We know even less about harnessing kids’ compelling natural affinity to engage with these devices positively to fully benefit at home or school. Teacher training is just beginning to become coherent and systematic and is not widely available yet,” according to Dr. S.

Nevertheless, parents and schools that can afford them are rushing to buy and install iPads all over the world with only little planning. “Touted as universally potentially the best thing slice sliced bread, iPads can indeed be quite helpful when used for specific goals, especially for kids with special needs, but for the most part the hype is mainly a measure of the devices’ sensational appeal, and they can be harmful when used unsupervised for junk entertainment (http://www.pewinternet.org/), especially as children’s brains are developing.”

So what are parents to do? Dr. S points out, “Incredibly, bottom line, after over a decade of seeing this tech chaos evolve in the homes of many patients and neighbors, there is still almost no coherent systematic widely practiced guidance for most parents or teachers. That’s why I wrote the book to give a comprehensive credible framework and invented ZillyDilly so parents can control content and time online by age and kids’ developmental needs are met.”

Dr. S recommends, “First, you are the child’s model and have the home-court advantage, so stop texting while parenting and straighten out your own tech life. Enforce tech-free times and zones. Teach that these are powerful tools, and learning their correct use is a careful long-term task, like hygiene and other self-care. Bring the iPad home only if you are sure about how you would use it, and make it a part of family life, like any appliance. Be careful — not all “educational” apps are educational, so ask a knowledgable teacher. Always stay in control of the time and content and introduce it to very young kids only for a specific purpose of learning or family interactivity and never for unsupervised isolated entertainment. Introduce technology carefully and stay fully engaged with preschoolers and in some partial ways even with teens. Never let the iPad babysit a preschooler or infant.”

Dr. Schwarz, a researcher himself, is optimistic because researchers and educators are beginning to recognize and address the opportunities and challenges (http://www.naeyc.org/files/naeyc/file/positions/PS_technology_WEB2.pdf), “Actually, you can control the iPad better than any other digital media, so learn how. Think of the iPad as a book. Look at zoos or museums online. Use the iPad as you might a board game, and use as many “old fashioned” books, toys, crayons, and other games as possible, including physical activities, while limiting “screen time”. While there is lots of debate about “screen time”, not all screens are the same and no general rules can apply here except to use these devices only to benefit the young child’s development and family life.”